FAQs

Learn more about Amy's approach
to counseling couples

Are you accepting new clients? How quickly can I get an appointment?

I am accepting a limited number of new clients.  As busy as I am right now, I want to continue to be available for couples who need help.

Currently, the best option for clients in a  relationship crisis is to schedule an intensive therapy session with me. You can find more information about my approach to intensive couples therapy here. 

Will our sessions be online or in person?

My regular sessions are all offered online, using a secure video-conferencing platform. 

Intensive counseling sessions can be done either in person or online.

If you have a strong preference for having a regular session with me in person, please contact me and I will do my best to accommodate you. 

Are you accepting new clients? How quickly can I get an appointment?

Yes, I’m accepting new clients. As busy as I am right now, I want to continue to be available for couples who need help! 

Currently, the best option for getting an appointment quickly is to schedule an intensive therapy session with me. You can find more information about my approach to intensive couples therapy here.

Will our sessions be online or in person?

Currently, my regular sessions are all offered online, using a secure video-conferencing platform. Intensive counseling sessions can be done either in person or online.

If you have a strong preference for having a regular session with me in person, please contact me and I will do my best to accommodate you. 

Does online therapy work as well as in-person counseling?

Surprisingly, yes! Many of my clients actually prefer it. 

I’m still able to pick up on your body language and tone of voice, and there’s no commute to and from my office. 

For more info about the benefits of online counseling, check out the bottom section of my Couples Counseling page. 

How much does marriage counseling cost?

As a certified Gottman and RLT counselor with over 20 years of experience, my rates are admittedly higher than the industry average. 

Whether you choose intensive therapy or regular weekly sessions, couples therapy is an investment in your relationship.

While marriage counseling is expensive, it’s worth noting that the average cost of a divorce is around $15,000.

Couples Counseling Rates:

  • My 90-minute sessions are $375.
  • Intensive Couples Sessions are $2,500 for a full day (six hour) session, and $1,250 for a half day (three hour) session.

Does online therapy work as well as in-person counseling?

Surprisingly, yes! Many of my clients actually prefer it. 

I’m still able to pick up on your body language and tone of voice, and there’s no commute to and from my office. 

For more info about the benefits of online counseling, check out the bottom section of my Couples Counseling page. 

How much does marriage counseling cost?

As a certified Gottman and RLT counselor with over 20 years of experience, my rates are admittedly higher than the industry average. 

Whether you choose intensive therapy or regular weekly sessions, couples therapy is an investment in your relationship. While marriage counseling is expensive, it’s worth noting that the average cost of a divorce is around $30,000.

Couples Counseling Rates:

  • Three-hour intensive therapy sessions start at $1,250
  • Six-hour intensive sessions start at $2,500
  • Regular, 90-minute sessions are $375

Do you accept insurance?

The short answer is no. However, many of my clients are able to get significant reimbursements from their insurance. 

Once we start working together, you’ll be invited to create an account in my client portal. This lets you print all your invoices and file them with your insurance on an “out of network” basis. The reimbursement then goes directly to you. This is only available for clients in the state of Texas. 

Unfortunately, it’s difficult to find highly trained and specialized couples therapists who accept insurance. Insurance companies don’t pay any extra for you to see a counselor with additional training and expertise, which means most experienced therapists choose to not accept insurance. 

 

How long are your counseling sessions?

I offer two different session lengths. 

My regular sessions are 90 minutes long. 

My intensive sessions start at six hours and can go longer or shorter depending on your needs.

In my experience, the traditional length of 50-60 minutes isn’t long enough to explore the Gottman and RLT interventions thoroughly. I want to make sure each partner feels heard. 

Doing 90-minute sessions allows us time to transition into the appointment smoothly, understand the best direction for the session, and help you establish a solution. 

Do you accept insurance?

The short answer is no. However, many of my clients are able to get significant reimbursements from their insurance. 

Creating an account in my client portal lets you print all your invoices and file them with your insurance on an “out of network” basis. The reimbursement then goes directly to you. 

Unfortunately, it’s difficult to find highly trained and specialized couples therapists who accept insurance. Insurance companies don’t pay any extra for you to see a counselor with additional training and expertise, which means most experienced therapists choose to not accept insurance. 

How long are your counseling sessions?

I offer two different session lengths:

My intensive sessions start at three hours and can go longer depending on your needs.

My regular sessions are 90 minutes long. 

In my experience, the traditional length of 50-60 minutes isn’t long enough to explore the Gottman and RLT interventions thoroughly. I want to make sure each partner feels heard. 

Doing 90-minute sessions allows us time to transition into the appointment smoothly, understand the best direction for the session, and help you establish a solution. 

How do I know if I should do intensive counseling or regular sessions?

Every situation is different. 

Research shows that an approach called “massing and fading” is most effective for couples counseling. This means doing more therapy upfront (massing) and then tapering off to more ongoing support and maintenance counseling (fading). 

Massing and fading is an effective strategy in any stage of your relationship. 

However, I especially recommend intensive therapy to couples struggling with:

  • Infidelity
  • Severe breaks in trust
  • Years of unresolved conflict and resentment 

Intensive therapy is also a great option if you’re wanting to jump-start the healing process in your marriage. 

If you’re still not sure which session type is the right fit for you, I offer free 15-minute phone consultations. Click here to send me a message and set up your free call.  

We’re in a pretty bad place. Can you still help? Have you worked with difficult situations before?

Absolutely, yes.

I’m so sorry your relationship is in a difficult place. I’ve helped many, many couples who were struggling with extremely painful situations, like:

  • An affair (either past or present)
  • Addiction
  • Family tensions
  • Financial indiscretion
  • Loss of sexual intimacy

The bravery, vulnerability, and ultimately the healing I’ve seen in couples who came to me as a last-ditch effort to save their marriage is truly inspiring. 

I’m honored to be part of each and every one of their journeys. 

The only issue where I will refer you to someone else is in the case of active physical abuse. If that is something you’re struggling with, please reach out for help through the National Domestic Abuse Hotline (800-799-SAFE (7233).

How do I know if I should do intensive counseling or regular sessions?

Every situation is different.  Research shows that an approach called “massing and fading” is most effective for couples counseling. This means doing more therapy upfront (massing) and then tapering off to more ongoing support and maintenance counseling (fading).  Massing and fading is an effective strategy in any stage of your relationship.  However, I especially recommend intensive therapy to couples struggling with:
  • Infidelity
  • Severe breaks in trust
  • Years of unresolved conflict and resentment 

Intensive therapy is also a great option if you’re wanting to jump-start the healing process in your marriage. 

If you’re still not sure which session type is the right fit for you, I offer free 15-minute phone consultations. Click here to send me a message and set up your free call. 

We’re in a pretty bad place. Have you worked with difficult situations before?

Absolutely, yes.

I’m so sorry your relationship is in a difficult place. I’ve helped many, many couples who were struggling with extremely painful situations, like:

  • An affair (either past or present)
  • Addiction
  • Family tensions
  • Financial indiscretion
  • Loss of sexual intimacy

The bravery, vulnerability, and ultimately the healing I’ve seen in couples who came to me as a last-ditch effort to save their marriage is truly inspiring. 

I’m honored to be part of each and every one of their journeys. 

The only issue where I will refer you to someone else is in the case of active physical abuse. If that is something you’re struggling with, please reach out for help through the National Domestic Abuse Hotline (800-799-SAFE (7233).

We’ve tried marriage counseling before and it hasn’t helped. How is therapy with you different?

Working with a counselor and not seeing the results you want can be really discouraging. 

Many of my clients come to me after working with multiple therapists – even other therapists with impressive credentials. 

I repeatedly have clients tell me that working with me is the best experience they’ve ever had with a counselor. 

You can feel confident that working with me will be different than what you’ve experienced before. 

This is largely due to my unique combination of certifications in:

  • The Gottman Method
  • Relational Life Therapy
  • Trauma therapy

Being able to combine evidence-based interventions with an intuitive and relational approach is what lets me provide you with such an impactful counseling experience. 

Click here for more information on why I believe this specific combination of training gives you the best results.

How long will we need to go to therapy?

To be honest, I gave up trying to answer this question years ago. 

I’ve seen clients with seemingly insurmountable issues complete therapy in a few months, and I’ve seen others with arguably fewer problems continue coming to therapy for years. 

Regardless of the length of time we work together, I will give you the same evidence-based tools to help your relationship. I am dedicated to always bringing my A-game, and giving you the best that therapy has to offer. 

The biggest factor in how long you’ll be in therapy is your own dedication and willingness to take the skills you learn and practice implementing them in your life. 

Depending on your unique circumstance, I’ll likely recommend that we either start with an intensive session or regular weekly sessions. 

As you progress, we can start spacing out the appointments more. Most of my clients who see the best results continue to see me every 3-6 months for “maintenance” sessions. 

If you’re wondering which approach suits your relationship the best, feel free to send me a message. 

We’ve tried marriage counseling before and it hasn’t helped. How is therapy with you different?

Working with a counselor and not seeing the results you want can be really discouraging.  Many of my clients come to me after working with multiple therapists – even other therapists with impressive credentials.  I repeatedly have clients tell me that working with me is the best experience they’ve ever had with a counselor.  You can feel confident that working with me will be different than what you’ve experienced before.  This is largely due to my unique combination of certifications in:
  • The Gottman Method
  • Relational Life Therapy
  • Trauma therapy

Being able to combine evidence-based interventions with an intuitive and relational approach is what lets me provide you with such an impactful counseling experience. 

Click here for more information on why I believe this specific combination of training gives you the best results.

How long will we need to go to therapy?

To be honest, I gave up trying to answer this question years ago.

I’ve seen clients with seemingly insurmountable issues complete therapy in a few months, and I’ve seen others with arguably fewer problems continue coming to therapy for years. 

Regardless of the length of time we work together, I will give you the same evidence-based tools to help your relationship. I am dedicated to always bringing my A-game, and giving you the best that therapy has to offer. 

The biggest factor in how long you’ll be in therapy is your own dedication and willingness to take the skills you learn and practice implementing them in your life. 

Depending on your unique circumstance, I’ll likely recommend that we either start with an intensive session or regular weekly sessions. 

As you progress, we can start spacing out the appointments more. Most of my clients who see the best results continue to see me every 3-6 months for “maintenance” sessions. 

For more information about what approach suits your relationship the best, feel free to send me a message and schedule a free 15-minute phone consultation.

What if we need more follow-up after an intensive session?

If you choose to do an intensive session with me, you’ll then be able to book regular, 90-minute follow-up appointments with me. 

Many couples find that while an intensive session gives them a major breakthrough, follow-up appointments are crucial to seeing lasting results. 

I know how much courage and vulnerability it takes to do an intensive counseling session. That’s why I make sure to offer follow-up appointments as well – I want you to be fully supported throughout your journey.

What if my spouse doesn’t want to come to therapy? Can you still help us?

This is a tricky one. For obvious reasons, couples therapy is far more effective when both people are involved. 

Even if one partner is reluctant to participate in counseling, I know you’ll see better results if both of you are there.  

If you’re struggling to get your partner to agree to counseling, try saying something along the lines of  “I love you and I want this marriage to work. I made an appointment for us at this time, and it would matter a lot to me if you were there.” 

If your partner ultimately refuses to attend therapy even after asking firmly and lovingly, I recommend pursuing individual therapy with a qualified professional. 

What if we need more follow-up after an intensive session?

If you choose to do an intensive session with me, you’ll then be able to book regular, 90-minute follow-up appointments with me. 

Many couples find that while an intensive session gives them a major breakthrough, follow-up appointments are crucial to seeing lasting results. 

I know how much courage and vulnerability it takes to do an intensive counseling session. That’s why I make sure to offer follow-up appointments as well – I want you to be fully supported throughout your journey.

What if my spouse doesn’t want to come to therapy? Can you still help us?

This is a tricky one. For obvious reasons, couples therapy is far more effective when both people are involved. 

Even if one partner is reluctant to participate in counseling, I know you’ll see better results if both of you are there.  

If you’re struggling to get your partner to agree to counseling, try saying something along the lines of  “I love you and I want this marriage to work. I made an appointment for us at this time, and it would matter a lot to me if you were there.” 

Worst-case scenario, if you continue to get a “no” from your partner, please send me a message and we can talk about how best to move forward.

Should we be doing individual therapy at the same time as couples therapy with you?

Short answer: no. 

In my experience, individual therapy can actually get in the way of the work you do as a couple. 

There may be times where I will recommend individual therapy, and we can discuss that in our sessions. 

Overall, the role of an individual therapist is so much different than that of a couples therapist. Without hearing both sides of the story, an individual therapist isn’t able to meaningfully speak to the whole relationship.

 

Well, what if we have individual issues?

Your relationship is made of two different individuals. With that in mind, my training in Relational Life Therapy lets me address deeply individual issues within the context of a couples session. 

Doing this work with both partners present not only helps you work through your own issues but lets you develop true empathy and understanding of your spouse’s individual struggles. 

Should we be doing individual therapy at the same time as couples therapy with you?

Short answer: no. 

In my experience, individual therapy can actually get in the way of the work you do as a couple. 

The role of an individual therapist is so much different than that of a couples therapist. Without hearing both sides of the story, an individual therapist isn’t able to meaningfully speak to the whole situation.

My training in Relational Life Therapy lets me address deeply individual issues within the context of a couples session. 

Doing this work with both partners present not only helps you work through your own issues but lets you develop true empathy and understanding of your spouse’s individual struggles.

Do you offer weekend or evening counseling appointments?

Yes, but only for intensive sessions! 

Send me a message to ask about availability for booking a session at a time that works for you. 

Is intensive therapy only in Austin?

Intensive therapy sessions can be done either in person or online. The in-person sessions are only offered in Austin.

Do you offer weekend or evening counseling appointments?

Yes, but only for intensive sessions! 

Send me a message to ask about availability for booking a session at a time that works for you. 

What if I don't live in Austin? Can I still work with you?

Yes, you can!

Because of how state licensure works for counselors, if you live outside of Texas I’m able to see you as a coach, not officially as a counselor.

The content of our work together is the same, though, and I’ve had many clients see incredible results with this option.

Intensive therapy sessions can be done either in person or online. The in-person sessions are only offered in Austin. 

 

What does MEd and LPC stand for?

Great question. 

MEd stands for Masters of Education. I received my MEd in Counseling from the CACREP accredited program at the University of North Texas in 2001. 

LPC stands for Licenced Professional Counselor. This is reserved for Masters and Doctoral level mental health professionals who have met the state testing requirements, including 3,000 hours of post-degree supervision and continuing education in the field of therapy.

What does it mean to be RLT certified?

To become certified in Relational Life Therapy (RLT) there are several steps. These include:

  • Completing three levels of training with Terry Real (the founder of the RLT method). 
  • Attending two intensive workshops where Terry worked with a total of ten couples over two days and I was able to observe, ask questions, and learn about the RLT technique. about sessions 
  • Attending one of Terry’s weekend workshops as a participant. 
  • Working with a leading RLT therapist as a consultant for a year.
  • Meeting with Terry on group calls twice a month for a year. 
  • Staying current on the RLT method through continuing education each year.

What do all those letters mean after your name?

I love this question! 

LPC stands for Licenced Professional Counselor. This is reserved for master’s-degreed mental health professionals, such as couples counselors. 

MEd stands for Masters of Education. I received my MEd in Counseling from the CACREP accredited program at the University of North Texas in 2001. 

What does it mean to be RLT certified?

To become certified in Relational Life Therapy (RLT) there are several steps. These include:

  • Training with Terry Real (the founder of the RLT method) in New York, Toronto, Denver, and Boston. 
  • Attending two weekend retreats where I was able to observe and ask questions about sessions Terry did with a total of ten couples. 
  • Working with one of Terry’s leading therapists as a consultant for a year.
  • Meeting with Terry on group calls twice a month for a year. 

What does it mean to be Gottman certified?

Becoming a Certified Gottman Therapist is an extensive process. It involves:

  • Completing three levels of competency,  including a week in Seattle working with Drs. John and Julie Gottman in person. 
  • Completing 100 hours of Gottman therapy with clients while under the supervision of one of Gottman’s highest-level therapists.
  • Submitting video recordings of client sessions to a top-level Gottman therapist to prove competency in all areas of the Gottman Method.

Both RLT certification and Gottman certification take about two years to complete.

Do you have a structured approach? We’ve heard Gottman is structured…

As with most things, each situation is different as far as how much structure is beneficial. 

While the Gottman Method does offer a structured framework for couples counseling, how that framework is applied will look different for every couple I work with. 

If structure is something you love, I’m happy to provide you with copies of the tools you learn in our sessions for you to continue to use at home. 

What does it mean to be a Certified Gottman Therapist?

Becoming a Certified Gottman Therapist is an extensive process. It involves:
  • Attending three, week-long courses – including a week in Seattle working with Drs. John and Julie Gottman in person. 
  • Completing 100 hours of Gottman therapy with clients…all under the supervision of one of Gottman’s highest-level therapists.

Obtaining this certification takes about two years.

Do you have a structured approach? We’ve heard Gottman is structured…

As with most things, each situation is different as far as how much structure is beneficial. 

While the Gottman Method does offer a structured framework for couples counseling, how that framework is applied will look different for every relationship. 

If structure is something you love, I’m happy to provide you with copies of the tools you learn in our sessions for you to continue to use at home.

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